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Why do parents abuse?

Why do Parents Abuse?

Child abuse is the physical, sexual, emotional mistreatment, or neglect of a child. It is happening all over the world, in poor, middle class, rule and urban areas, to children or all races and genders. Every day somewhere in the world is a child being harmed. Child abuse is more than bruises and broken bones, it occurs when a child is mistreated, resulting in physical or emotional injury. It can be physical, emotional or sexual. While physical abuse might be the most visible sign of abuse, other types of abuse such as, emotional abuse or child neglect, are equally wrong, and also leaves deep long lasting scars.[1] Many things could cause child abuse, but that gives no right to do it. Remember all child abuse is physical as emotional abuse. Parents should not take a child’s simple mistakes further than just a little tap on the hand, but why do parents take it further than that?

Physical abuse, a subset of child abuse, is when physical force, violence, or injury is caused to a child, including battery, assault, and restraint. A deliberate non-accidental attempt to harm a child, sometimes it’s because of severe discipline to punish or by using a belt or hand. Physical abuse can also include a parent/caretaker failure to provide the proper safety of a child from another person. Many times physical abuse is a cause of stress. Indicators of physical abuse can be sprains, multicolored bruises, burns, and fractures. Even though parents, and care givers, say the physical strikes is a form of discipline, it is still not right to harm a child. [2]

Emotional abuse has no universally accepted definition. Emotional abuse leaving few visible scars, can damage a child’s mental health, social development, and leave long lasting scares. Used to control, humiliate, and punish, emotional abuse isn’t always easy to recognize by the victim. It involves words, actions, and indifference. Some examples of emotional abuse are verbal assault, penalizing a child for positive, normal behavior, and discouraging interpersonal skills. Emotional abuse can happen in all different types of families. The abuse can come from, poor parenting skills, and social isolation.

Child neglect is the failure of a parent to properly care for their child under the age of 18 years. Child neglect is one very common type of abuse. It can be identified by not providing the basic needs for a child, such as a food, clothing, hygiene, and supervision. There are several different types of child neglect. Physical neglect is when a parent is not providing the necessary food, shelter to their children/child, or when the body gets badly beaten. Medical neglect is not providing medical treatment, educational neglect, lacking to have your child educated, or to attend school regularly. It includes not only serious, but mild moderate medical neglect as well. And emotional neglect is not paying attention or not paying any attention at all. Emotional neglect occurs when a child is being deliberately ignored or overlooked.

Sexual abuse is ant type of non-consensual sexual contact. It is one of the most difficult forms of abuse to talk about. It includes a wide range of actions between a child and an adult, often being body contact, but not always. On the most extreme ends of the spectrum, sexual abuse involves intercourse and/or inappropriate touching. Effect of child abuse, can sometimes extend to adulthood, robbing a child from their innocents, and leading to depression, loss of self-esteem, and very serious emotional problems. [3]

Studies show that the states with the highest unemployment rate have the highest rate of mistreated children. With job loss causes a lot of stress for the family, and with that stress may lead to mistreatment. Can this mean most of the child abuse comes from unemployed families? According to Robert Sege, MD, PhD, of Boston University, each 1% increase in the unemployment rate was associated with at least 0.50 per 1,000 more cases of confirmed child maltreatment. Job loss is a sign of stress, and in some cases stress causes violence. [4]

So, why do parents abuse their children when they should love them unconditionally?  In some cases, the parent(s) that abuses might have been abused themselves as a young child. Other reason parents might abuse is lack of parenting knowledge, not knowing a child’s needs and their actions in different development stages can cause a parent to lash out on their child.  Being well educated about children and all of the different needs they have is one important element in being/becoming a parent. Knowing what a child needs will help with the parenting process.

The physical, sexual, emotional mistreatment, or neglect of child abuse is happening all over the world, to children or all races and genders, and it can be prevented. If a parent knows they are not fit to care for a child, there are many different alternatives. Giving the child to a trustworthy loved one, or adoption, are a few. If anger escalates some ways to regain control are, counting to 10, taking a couple of deep breaths, and listening to music. If that doesn’t help, go get help. Someone should not have to go through this, and have painful memories thought their live. Stopping the cycle of abuse is very important for generations to come.


About bryannalavon

Bryanna. 18 years old. Clark Atlanta University c/o 2015.

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  1. At which point during your reading of this paper did you feel the most interested in it? When least? Explain.

    – I was interested throughout the explanation portions. You wrote it in a nice order by going over the many types of abuse and neglect. I also liked the connection between job loss and abuse, and parents being abused as children being a reson to why they would currently abuse their own.

    On a scale of 1 to 5, with 1 being the lowest and 5 the highest, rate the strength of this paper’s thesis or controlling idea. (No explanation required for this rating, but feel free to add one if you think it will help the writer.)

    – I give your thesis a five. You clearly laid out the main points for your paper.

    Which of the following three does this paper seem to rely on most: Evidence, writer’s opinion, or writer’s intuition? Point out one example of each type of writing and comment on its effectiveness.
    -Your paper mainly relies on eveidence that you’ve found. An evidential example is, “According to Robert Sege, MD, PhD, of Boston University, each 1% increase in the unemployment rate was associated with at least 0.50 per 1,000 more cases of confirmed child maltreatment.” Examples of your own writing and/ or your own intuition isn’t evident to me.

    Information from sources needs to carefully integrated whenever used in your writing. At the same time, the reader has to be clear about who’s saying what–the writer or the sources. How effective do you find this paper’s method of integrating and acknowledging sources? Use examples to support your judgement.

    – You acknoledged your sources, as far as citing them ver well, but ther is only one case in which you actually quote one of your sources in the paper.


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